Here are 12 reasons not to plan your funeral
One thing people may not know is that funerals are for the living as much as it is for the dead. It is a rite of passage that is experienced by the ones who were left behind to properly grieve and let go of the person who has passed. A funeral is for letting go. Letting go of you for you have already let go of your body. The ones who you have left behind would be there to pick up the pieces and go through a very emotionally difficult time. Before you start planning your funeral, you should first consider how difficult it would be for the ones who would be following your instructions. Of course, they would want to remember you and honor your wishes but sometimes, grief can make even the most productive of people, give up and choose to do nothing but grieve.
It may seem like you are doing them a favor by providing them with what you want, but sometimes, they need to do what they need to do in order to honor you and remember you in their own way. You can suggest a few things to add to your funeral but do not plan so much or plan too ahead of time that you would leave them already thinking about how to do your funeral when you are still alive.
- Reasons why you should NOT plan your funeral
There are many reasons why you should not plan your funeral. It ranges from giving this opportunity for the ones left behind to remember you the way they would want to and to avoid the view that you are looking forward to your own death.
- You are not dying
This is probably one of the most important things to keep in mind. Do not win the race against death and ask it to come to get you when it is not your time yet. Planning your funeral may be a great way to make sure it is up to your liking but planning it ahead would make it seem like you are excited about it. Like it is something to celebrate and get everything right. Live your life and let death catch up with you in its own time. A lot of people would love it better if you stayed in the present than go immediately to the future.
- Give people the opportunity
Mentioned above, this funeral is for people to grieve and let go of you. Study finds it as a passage that the living must go through so they may grieve and mourn properly. Giving them free reign would make it more special and personal for each person you have left behind. They would be given the opportunity to share your significance in their life. Give them that chance and do not take it away from them because you want your death to be hassle-free. It can never be difficult.
- Family agreement
Planning your own funeral may have problems and holes when they are made. If your family is the type to completely agree with what you propose, then that is a good thing! There are some who have a hard time agreeing with anything. Avoid conflict and make them decide on their own. Your funeral would be special as it would have a personal touch by everyone who has ever loved you.
- Clothing choices
You do not want to plan what you want to wear ahead. This is because it might not be the best choice once your dead. It may be too old or too worn out once you are in the casket. Leave it to your loved ones and trust that they would make sure you are dressed and remembered well.
- You are already dead
You are already dead at this time, so why would you care about how the funeral should go? It is not something to worry about, especially if you have a family that would have a hard time letting you go. Leave it to them, so they may let go of you properly and in their own time.
- Money is not important anymore
if you are planning your funeral because you are afraid of how much will be spent, forget it. Who cares if the funeral flowers are too expensive? Or hiring florists cost too much? You cannot bring your money where you are going. Leave it.
- It is not for you
A funeral is not for you to let go of the ones you leave behind but for them to let go of you. Let them let you go in their own way.
- Peace of mind
Trust your family and this would give you peace of mind that your funeral will be beautiful, and you would be remembered with love.
- Guests invites
You do not want to make a guest list ahead of your own death as this could change over the course of time. You might meet people that you would not get the chance to put in that list.
- No funerals here
If you are someone who wishes to not have a funeral, think twice as you would be taking the opportunity to grieve from those who are left behind.
- You won’t be there
You will not be there at your funeral, why make the effort to make it look perfect and just the way you want it?
- Die in Peace
You are already dead by this time so it is best to just let everything go and die peacefully, knowing that your memory will live on, regardless.